Practicing mindfulness is one of the most. valuable tools for implementing changes in yourself. I personally do practice mindfulness and it is the one thing that brought about positive changes in myself that I had been trying to make for years, but was not able to before.
Mindfulness is self awareness and with out self awareness there is no way we can shed light onto areas of ourselves that need to be consciously seen and acknowledged.
The practice I use is journaling. Each day upon waking I sit with myself and over my previous day. I try to remember as much of it as I can. It won’t take you long to figure out that the things you will remember are the things that you need to change. Little things like something that irritated you, a judgement about someone, negative thoughts about yourself, and the list goes on and on.
When I first started the practice it didn't make me feel very good. I would feel self judgment and shame for anything I did that wasn’t in alignment with who I wanted to become. As I continued the process I started to approach it with a different attitude. Instead of condemning myself, I started to appreciate and be grateful that I was doing the work and noticing things I wanted to change. This concept changed everything.
Once you learn to love yourself in spite of your short comings that is where real change happens. We are all having life experiences that are causing reactions. Many of those reactions are caused by past life experiences. I finally realized that condemning myself wasn’t self love. I began to realize that everyone is going through their own personal struggles. All of us are being affected by them. Then something magical began to happen. The more I started to appreciate myself for working on myself, I noticed that things just started to fall away and change. I didn’t have to, “do the work,” that was the work. The simple idea of noticing and not attaching to any of it was what caused the change. As those changes happened my self love grew.
Doing a mindfulness practice is the only way you can change. If you keep going along doing the same things over and over you will become frustrated and feel lost. But, if you start to see things in your daily interactions that normally would just slip by you, you can make real positive changes.
I use several mindfulness practices, check out my website at Your pain is my pain and read the Knowing Yourself blog. There are several other blogs on there that also help with this practice.