There is a lot of misconceptions when it comes to our emotions. Many people think that they are bad and they do their best to suppress their negative emotions. People become frustrated with themselves and their inability to control their reactions. It seems no matter how hard you try they just keep coming back and get stronger. Let's get to bottom of your emotions and utilize some great tools to help you get them back into balance.
What are the Negative Emotions we are Talking About?
First of all, they are not negative emotions. They are aspects of the self and everyone one of us has every one of them. The only cause of why some emotions are stronger than others are our life experiences.
Here is a List of Aspects we all Have in Common
Why are Some Aspects Stronger Than Others?
Depending on what we go through in our lives, will determine the reactivity of our emotions.
We have a lot of painful experiences throughout our lifetimes. Our minds are really quite remarkable and work very much like computers do. They file away these stressful, hurtful, embarrassing, aspects, in our subconscious minds. Each of them has their own separate file. So depending on which emotions your life causes you to feel, that determines how big each file becomes. Let's look at an example.
So How Does This Work?
When you were a child and someone hurt you, your mind is going to keep track of it and file it away in your subconscious mind. As I said, each emotion will have its own separate file. Your brain will now stand guard and watch for any similar situations and react to them very quickly based on what it has on file from previous experience. That includes a smell, sound, and any other sense, that it has recorded.
Let's go through a scenario so you get the idea. Suppose you are the youngest child in your family of 4. While you are playing the older children come and grab your toys away from you and you get angry. Maybe you feel frustrated, taken advantage of, or a variety of emotions are all in play. Now about a week later you are eating your favorite snack and one of your other siblings grabs a piece of it and runs away. Now you are angry again, but this time it goes up a level. Your subconscious kicks into high and remembers this kind of thing has happened before so I need to get angrier so it doesn't happen again. So over time, your anger starts to react quicker and be bigger than what the situation really calls for.
Why is this? Because you are starting to form what is known as a chain in your subconscious mind. A chain is a list of similar situations causing similar emotions. As these chains grow over your life they become longer and more reactive. If you have a negative emotion that is constantly being stimulated over and over it becomes out of balance and much more dominant then the others.
What Can be Done?
Becoming more self-aware and willing to pay more attention to your emotional state is the first step to breaking these chains. That will require you to make a commitment that rather than reacting to your emotions. The first step is to start listening and talking to your emotions.
Every time you find yourself in a situation where you become activated by a negative emotion and I mean by activated, you want to react, stop yourself. Recognize the opportunity for healing at that moment. Take the person or situation that caused you to react out of the situation. It isn't about them, it is about what you have stored up in your reactive subconscious mind.
Every morning make a commitment to sit with yourself. Go over your previous day in detail. Think about any situations that come to mind that you did not react in a way that you were proud of. What got you going? What caused a response or thought pattern that wasn't productive? Write down all of the negative emotions that you felt during the previous day. Read them over and really soak in each incident in as much detail as possible. When you have done this release these things to the universe and ask that they are removed from you. Next, write down all the positive traits that you want to have. Imagine yourself being that way in all the interaction you had the day before. How does it feel to be that new person? Imagine yourself and how it feels to love yourself completely. Next, release these things to the universe and ask for help in receiving these things. Sit a few more minutes in gratitude for yourself in noticing where you fell short and where you want to grow.
The changes that will infuse you by doing this process on a regular basis will be shocking. Stick with it on a daily basis, it doesn't take a lot of time and is well worth the efforts.
This process is to be used on individual upsets as well. Whenever you encounter an emotional response from anyone about anything, immediately retreat to a place where you can close your eyes and ask yourself when you have felt this emotion before? The stronger the reaction is, the longer the chain will be. As you ask yourself where this is coming from a long list of similar situations will be brought to you from the subconscious mind where they are stored. As you remember these past situations you will be moving them to the conscious mind where they will no longer have an emotional charge. Little by little your emotional responses will start to diminish. No longer will you be caught up in arguments or hurt feelings, you will begin to be grateful to the people who cause these reactions because it will is bringing to light what is in you that you are not consciously aware of.
This is the cure for emotional outbursts that you can't seem to control and often times do not understand. By moving these painful experiences to the conscious mind you remove the reactive charge.
You will know that this has been effective because as you go over these painful experiences a couple of times in your mind they will start to disappear. You will actually have trouble pulling them up. This is because they are no longer filed where they once were. Give this a try, it really works.