There are many common themes that people go though when embarking on a spiritual journey. In the beginning we can be over zealous and want to tell everyone and their uncle what we know be true. Often times we think that we are the new teacher to everyone and we will be perplexed when we find out that not everyone thinks they way we do. You will go through a process that will bring you to the understanding that all human beings are wise and that spirituality is an individual journey that needs to be honored in everyone. If someone seeks your opinion or advice you can offer it, but you must use discernment.
In the beginning of your spiritual journey it can be insatiable. You will want to eat, sleep, and breath it. Maybe it was kicked off by some type of spiritual experience or a life experience. The only thing that is known for sure is once it begins it will not stop. There will be phases where you will work at it consistently and there will be phases where you will need to take a break and recuperate.
A spiritual journey rewarding as it is is a lot of work. You will have to go through all of your emotional issues and tendencies. Little by little they will be released and replaced with new beliefs and understandings. It is not any easy process at all. Some call it the dark night of the soul. This is where your old life is falling away and a new one has not yet taken form. Old relationships that worked in the past, no longer are working. Our careers may turn dull and unfulfilling. The vast amount of change in a short period of time can prove to be very overwhelming and difficult. The ego will protest and try to coax you back into your old life, but you won’t be able to do it.
As you gradually go through this process of allowing your higher self to have dominion over your personality self, it will be challenging, but the rewards are great. For a long time it was the other way around, the personality self ran the show. Don’t expect that your ego will go down without a fight.
You may not be able to notice a lot of changes right away, but as you look back months and even years later you will begin to see the pattern and marvel at the perfection of it.
Looking back at myself there can be mixed emotions. When I see positive changes I feel grateful to myself and happy about how far I have come. On the other hand, when I remember back to how I got here and some of the stupid things I said and did, I could easily fall into self judgment and shame.
The most important thing I have learned by this experience is that everything I want starts with me. If I want to be less judgmental of others, I have to first correct that in myself. If I want to offer more love and compassion, I must first offer that to myself. So in understanding this concept I am beginning to realize that loving ourselves is the single most important task we can accomplish. Once I came to this realization I began to use self-awareness practices to assist me in learning to love myself. By noticing where I was falling short, I could begin to appreciate myself for at least noticing. I was beginning to shine a light on some areas in my life that I was hiding from in the past. The challenge was to not fall into judgement and shame over failures, but to be grateful and appreciate that I noticed and cared enough to want to change. It was a pleasant surprise when I realized that this alone changed me, I knew I had stumbled onto something of value.
I didn’t have to become perfect, I just had to notice I wasn’t and be ok with that. To ask for help to do it better next time and to see that my life experiences are what caused me to react the way that I did. This is to be human, the only thing making us different is our life experiences. How can we blame ourselves or anyone else for what we have been through?
Give yourself the gift of understanding and developing self awareness.
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