Why is it so Hard to Stop Addictive Behaviors?
Why can't you stop gambling, say no to that cupcake, turn away from alcoholism, and give up pornography?. Dopamine has something to do with all of these things and more. It is a complex chemical in your body that needs to be understood.
To better grasp dopamine and how it works and it's role in addiction, I have included this video to break it down and make it simple for you to understand. Basically, in a nutshell, quick bursts of dopamine end up lowering your serotonin in the end. Although we can get a quick thrill, high, or some kind of immediate gratification, it only leaves us longing for more and we will never feel satisfied. There are some groundbreaking studies now available that are telling the story of addiction and immediate gratification, that is making us have to take a second look at how we are choosing to live our lives. What may seem like short-term happiness may really have a long-term negative effect. Real happiness seems to be derived from love, volunteering, gratitude, which also produce dopamine, but in a very different way so that it causes an increase in serotonin levels in our brains.
Let's Take a Look at Pornography Popularity
While searching the web today I decided to google what draws the most traffic on the internet. The biggest piece of the pie goes to pornography. What seems to be a past time of many men has grown so large that it draws more visitors than Netflix, Amazon, and Twitter combined. YouPorn, one of the larger video porn sites, streams six times the bandwidth as Hulu. It is said that 70% of men watch porn, while 30% of women do. The average time on a porn site is 12 minutes. Recently a study of HR professionals has found that 2/3 of employees have porn on their work computers.
The Porn industry revenue in 2013 for China was 28% or $27.40 billion dollars, enough to feed 62% of the worlds hungry for an entire year.
A study in the U.S. in 2006 showed that we spend $13.3 billion on porn and that it exceeded combined revenues of ABC, CBS, and NBC.
Ages of Pornography Users
- 18-24-year-olds 13.61%
- 25-34-year-olds 19.90%
- 35-44-year-olds 25.50%
- 45-54-year-olds 20.67%
- 55+ 20.32%
The Higher the Income the Higher the use of Pornography
- 15K - 6.2%
- 15 - 25K - 6.59%
- 25 - 35K - 9.55%
- 35 - 50K - 16.59%
- 50 - 75K - 35.58%
- 75K + - 35.30%
Facts About Pornography Websites
- The average age of first-time pornography users is about 11 years old
- There are over 100,000 websites that offer illegal child pornography
- There are over 116,000 requests per day for child pornography
- It is reported that 1 in 17 youths have received a sexual solicitation
- There are at least 4.5 million pornographic websites, 15% of total websites
- Daily website search engine requests total more 68 million requests for porn, making it more than 25% of internet requests
- Some 34% of internet users received unwanted pornographic exposure
- Over 35% of all internet downloads per month are for pornographic material, totaling over 1.5 billion requests
- Nearly half of all internet users view porn
- There are over 75 million worldwide internet users that visit adult websites per month
Think You Can Cover Your Tracks, Think Again
Just How Big are Porn Sites?
Xvideos, the largest porn site on the web with 4.4 billion views per month, is three times the size of CNN or ESPN, and twice the size of Reddit. Other internet porn sites such as YouPorn, Tube*, and Pornhub are also huge sites that make Facebook and Google look like small flies on the internet.
Interestingly, the time spent on porn sites ranges from 12-20 minutes as compared to non-porn sites where the average time is 3-6 minutes.
There are only so many ways you can cope with the amount of storage needed for sites like YouPorn. You can set up your own data center, rent a few racks in a very large data center, or use a cloud provider like Amazon AWS or Microsoft Azure. The amount of storage needed for these sites is incomprehensible.
What are the Effects of Watching Porn
Many nights as their wives sleep, men surf the net for porn. Women complain that they worry that their husbands prefer porn to having sex with them.
Women enjoy being found attractive and when their partners are showing a lot of interest in pornography it can make the women feel threatened and not as sexy.
Studies are now showing the detrimental effects of pornography on men. The constant dopamine bursts only cause them to need more and more porn to satisfy themselves. The need for greater stimulation can cause a man to not be able to be excited about real women. Porn tolerance may lead men to watch more extreme porn acts which aren't able to be differentiated from fantasy and reality. Pornography contains extreme, unrealistic sex acts that even most adults don't engage in. The confusing images that our children are exposed to have the capability of warping their ideas about sex, gender, and relationships.
Never underestimate the value of good old common sense. If you need to lie about it, hide it, or sneak around to do it, chances are this is not something that is good for you or your relationship. Sadly, pornography was never meant for the eyes of children and was considered to be adult entertainment. In today's world, children are learning about sex on the internet and it is pervasive and misleading.
The brain is a powerhouse of our bodies. It is the most valuable thing that we possess. Pornography is considered a new drug. Scientists are just now understanding what pornography really does and how it affects our behaviors and our society. So how is pornography addicting like a drug? It can be uncomfortable to talk about. Not a lot of people want to discuss it. The largest group of porn users is now becoming our youth. Every second 30 thousand people are visiting porn sites. The number of women watching porn is also skyrocketing. Pornography goes in through the eyes and releases chemicals into your brain. Your brain overloads with these chemicals. Once your brain becomes used to these high amounts and now you need more and more to get the same rush and a harder core type pornography to get the same response. The same process happens with cocaine and heroin. Dopamine is a highly addictive drug that once we flood our brains with it we crave more of it. Whether that flood comes from drugs, pornography or good old-fashioned cake it's all the same.
What Does Dopamine Actually do to Our Brains?
When a person is having sex or watching porn, dopamine is released into a region of the brain that is responsible for our emotions and learning. This gives the viewer a sharp sense of focus and a strong craving. The feeling of pleasure brings about a feeling of "I need this thing, and I need to do it right now." The next time the viewer even thinks about pornography they get the 'itch" for more pleasure, and small packets of dopamine are released in the brain telling it to go get another fix where you got it the last time.
Norepinephrine another chemical that is released brings about alertness and focus. It is the brains version of adrenaline. It tells our brain something is about to happen, and we need to get ready for it.
Pornography also triggers the release of oxytocin and vasopressin. These hormones help lay down long-term cell memory and they bind to the object that gave him or her the pleasure. After sex serotonin is released, bringing a sense of calm and relaxation.
The system works the way it is supposed to when you are having sex with a partner. Together you experience the high, alertness, and deep calm afterward. With each embrace, you emotionally bond with the person and over time a craving for sex is transformed into a desire or bond to one another.
How Pornography Affects the System Differently
Instead of forming a deep connection to a person, your brain ends up bonding to a pornographic experience. Your brain remembers where the sexual high was experienced, and now you feel a sharp sense of focus; I need to go back to porn for this.
Pornography gives the brain an unnatural high. Teacher Gary Wilson explained that when men look at porn, they experience surge after surge of dopamine in the brain. The brain eventually tires, and stops the production of dopamine, leaving the viewer wanting more but unable to attain a level of satisfaction. As a result, this confirms that everyday pleasures stop causing excitement and the viewer has to seek out more intense pornography to reach the same high as before.
The imbalance in the brain leads to many problems; impotence with your spouse, frequent masturbation with very little satisfaction, anxiety, fatigue, lack of motivation, inability to concentrate, and escalating tastes for more bizarre pornography.
The Book; "The Porn Circuit: Understanding Your Brain and Break of Porn Habits in 90 Days." is a free book to learn more.
A Cambridge Neuropsychiatrist Valerie Vood was featured last year in a UK documentary called, "Porn on the Brain". Her research showed that the effects of porn are similar to alcoholics. The brain uses the same pleasure pathway as an alcoholic does. When an alcoholic is shown a picture of a drink, the brain lights up in a certain way. The same activity in the brain is now being seen when someone is shown pornography.
What Can You do to Protect Your Children From Pornography?
As adults, we can make a better decision based on facts that watching pornography isn't good for our relationships or our brains. However, our children may not understand the negative effects that this is having on them. We have a responsibility to our youth to protect them and here are some of the ways you can do it.
There are several good monitoring programs out there and I suggest you get one if you are raising a family. Curiosity can get the best of children and it is our job as parents to filter out material that may be harmful to their well being. Many working parents are not aware of the kind of things their children could be accessing on the internet while they are away.
Net Nanny is a great way for parents to monitor internet activities of their children. With Net Nanny you set the controls. You can filter out things like Snapchat, pause the internet, receive real-time alerts. You can protect your child's smartphones, tablets, PCs, and Macs at home, school, or elsewhere on all WiFi and mobile networks. Net Nanny uses deep learning to understand the content of pages, blocking the bad while allowing the good. Net Nanny will even protect your child against sexual predators, privacy concerns, and reputation-damaging pictures and videos.
You can purchase a family pass for as little as $9.00 per device that covers 5 devices for as little as $44.99 per month. Net Nanny is the number one filtering choice on the market. Click the link below to visit the site for more information.
What About Help for Addicted Adults?
A program called Covenant Eyes is an internet accountability service that is designed to help you overcome porn by monitoring your internet activity and sending a report to a trusted friend who holds you accountable for your online choices.
Covenant Eyes can be installed on all of your devices. They will monitor and keep track of your internet activity. They will even block the bad stuff if you want them to.
Pornography can trap you in shame, loneliness, and frustration. Sometimes the only way to break free of it is to have some help. Relationship damage caused by pornography deception is widespread.
What is the Cost of Covenant Eyes?
- Personal subscription is $10.99/per month
- Family subscription is $14.99/per month
- Covenant Eyes offers a 30-day money back guarantee
- Check out the Covenant Eyes website by clicking on the link below.
We now know by the statistics that the use of internet pornography is grossly on the rise. We as parents and individuals need to know the negative effects that this can have on our children and our society as a whole. There is just far too much adult material available on the internet without proper supervision. Sometimes sites with adult content will pop up without your child even looking for it. Don't take the chance that curiosity may get the better of them, get a protection program today.